Ways of life

1. FOCUS!!! Do only one thing at a time. If something else pops up, write it down. If unimportant things pop up, chuck them. 

2. Some things are in your control while others are not. Focus on the things which are. 

3. If you start something, try to finish it. Even if you don't want to.

4. Set a goal and stick by it till it finishes. Once finished, take a break and then set the next goal.

•  Plan ahead. A week in advance. List all important things to come and plan for it. Don't postpone. Planning will already take a lot of time.

5. Meditate!

6. Workout 3 times a week! Eat in moderation! 

7. Smell good!

8. When reading, don't skip words or lines. Read through thoroughly. Take time if needed.

9. The quieter you become, the more you hear. But, just quietening is not enough. You have to quieten your mind. And actually hear.

• Listen more.

• Speak little and well. Say only what is necessary and be brief. Speak slowly.

• Assess the conversation inside your head while you listen.

• Don't talk too much about yourselves.

10. You are good enough. You don't need to think you aren't. Nobody in this world knows everything. Have some faith in yourself.

11. Keep an aura of calmness and positiveness.

• Do not get angry.

• Do not act like a kid. Act more mature.

• Stop judging and criticising others. If you can't say something nice, don't say something bad. Rather stay quiet.

• Try to formulate negative statements in a positive way. 

• Don't have to correct everyone. Decide who you wanna correct.

• Don't give advice unless asked for.

• Don't help unless asked for. At max, offer once. If denied, walk away.

• Pause. Take a moment before reacting

• Respond to insults with humour. Use self deprecating humour.

• Speak without judging. Choose your words carefully.

• Speak in a low voice.

12. Know your worst habit. Quit it. 

13. Clean and organise your room. Set dedicated timeslots. Like 1 hour after lunch on weekends.

14. Talking to people -

• Know everyone's name.

• Don't run away from people. Stay and talk for 5 mins.

• Maintain eye contact. Look into the person's eyes till you can see the person's eyes color. 

• Walk with confidence. Talk with confidence. 

• Keep an eye out for your own body posture. Don't look shady. Shoulders and back high. Take space as you move. 

• Don't stretch, move or rock. Don't start tucking your shirt in your pants. Stay still and talk normally.

• Try and connect more. Greet everyone. Talk to people around you.

• Use positive observations as ice breakers.

• Find a way to deal with difficult people.

• Don't try to impress people.

15. Knowledge is power. Knowledge is confidence. When unsure or feeling uncomfortable in a place or feeling intimidated by other people, look for information. Look for knowledge.

16. Figure out how to invest in work and do it. If you work on something, know everything about it and try to remember it.

17.  Remind yourself of the impermanence of things. Remember how lucky you are to have loved ones.

18. Be tolerant towards others but strict with yourself.

19. Remember the virtues you have in you. Exercise those virtues.

20. When angry on someone, put yourself in the person's shoes.